Do You Need To Take A Break?
If you’re on here because you think you need to take a break, but you feel guilty about it – you’re welcome.
There’s this weird, laughable yet unfortunate trend happening with people who seem to have a warped understanding of what “consistency” is.
I read about people trying to please an algorithm they cannot control and I shake my head.
If you consciously chase fame, including on social media, it will end in tears.
If you need to take a break, including from social media, GO.
Your fans, trolls and the algorithm will be fine; I promise.
Post what you need to, to meet the needs of your own audience.
Stop robbing your audience of what they need because your ego is driving you. I don’t understand why someone would delete a post that’s helpful to his/her own audience, just cos the algorithm did not show the poster what their ego liked.
You can have 10,000 followers, yet 90% are useless to your own goals.
But your ego won’t let you admit it.
Yet ☝️is why an “influencer” can have a million followers, do a product launch and get TWO sales! What is the point?
A true life story has been told by a young man who was faithfully posting YouTube videos weekly, treating a particular theme for a year – despite having only 11 LIKES.
Some of those likes were from his own family (cos you know how it is). What he didn’t know at the time was that Oprah Winfrey was one of the 11 likes.
He had no reason to know she knew of his existence cos
1) she wasn’t leaving comments and
2) YouTube doesn’t show you WHO is liking your content; just that you got a like.
But let’s be serious – if you’re trying to get into the Media or Entertainment spaces and Oprah Winfrey is liking your content CONSISTENTLY, have you not won in life?
Which is what the young man found out when Oprah Winfrey’s team reached out to him! She had a project, needed a specific type of person and remembered him because of his consistent videos that he was tempted to stop cos he was only getting 11 likes!
So, he didn’t have to beg anyone, pitch himself, go through gatekeepers or wonder what was happening while waiting for his emails to be answered.
That was the real consistency – not posting to please an algorithm whose code you didn’t write.
If you’re not OK or you have other things going on in your life, please take a break. There is nothing to be ashamed of. And this also applies offline.
I often talk about the time I got fired from a gig that I was actually putting my health in danger, to deliver for and you can read about it here.
If you need to take a break, you need to take a break. You’re not doing yourself (or anyone for that matter) any favours by denying it. You’re really not that important or indispensable; sorry.
That’s why if you break down and die, social media will move on without you. Your boss, that you’re bending over backwards to please at the risk of your mental and physical health, will be fine.
Even those who remember you, will use you for content, then they will move on.
STOP APOLOGISING FOR TAKING BREAKS!!!
And sometimes, the fact that you are mindlessly posting daily, is the indicator of your need to take a break.
Go and rest and regroup, so you can know what you are really about, who you’ve actually been called to serve and how best to go about it.
Everybody is NOT your audience, but your ego + desperately chasing social media validation + distractions, might not let you see clearly and be great in peace.
Cos you’re looking at and triggered by what you think other people are doing…
I help young women in Law and Media develop strong voices, solid careers and stable personal lives.
So, if you’re an Aspiring or Actual
✅Author, Screenwriter or Playwright
✅Podcaster, YouTuber or OAP
✅Lawyer or Legal Professional
and you’re finding it difficult to
✅locate your own audience
✅figure out the balance between your ambitions & your personal life